Why should i stay

Sometimes, even if it's wrong, we don't want to feel like we've wasted our time in a relationship. So many people still do it for the kids. Things like not knowing how to split up stuff or move can sometimes keep people together way past when they should. It's nice to connect with someone, but I don't think it's a good enough reason to stay in a crappy relationship.

Partners who are a bad influence often don't last. As you can see, there are so many reasons you may decide to stay in a relationship — or to leave one. Don't give up too soon. Although right now, during the hard time, you may be wondering if there is someone better out there for you, the probability of that is pretty low — especially if you've already been with someone your current partner who you feel like is your true soulmate. You may be toying with the idea of a new person because it feels so hard with your current partner, but the truth is, someone new will only keep you happy for a short time.

A lot of times, the problems we experience in relationships are reflections of ourselves, so it's not unlikely that you'll have the exact same problems with another person. And with them, you won't have the history and love built up like you do with your current partner.

So instead of looking for something new, look to improve what you already have. At the end of the day, love is a decision you have to make again and again. Although we all have this very romantic idea of falling in love with one person and having it last forever, it takes work.

For some couples, it might not be hard work, but it is the decision to get up and love your partner every day.

One of the best reasons to stay with the person you love is because, well, you love them! The arguments and fights and hard times don't make your relationship; your love does. And it's very likely you'll be happier in the long-term if you decide to stay. Although relationships aren't always rainbows and sunshine like we would like them to be, there are many wonderful features to them that make them worth fighting for.

Instead, work on it to build an even better relationship with the one you love in the future. By Anjali Sareen Nowakowski. It Won't Be Hard Forever. They also factored in practical issues, including potential family disruption and financial implications.

Participants also suggested 23 general reasons to leave. Listing these themes is one thing. How do individuals factor them into real-life decisions of whether to stay or go?

To find out, the researchers did a follow-up study with over people who were contemplating breaking up or getting a divorce. Roughly half of these participants reported feeling, on balance, more inclined to stay in the troubled relationship. That makes sense — inertia is powerful.

Staying often takes the least effort. However, those same exact people simultaneously had an above-average inclination to leave, meaning they rated themselves as leaning toward breaking up. See the problem? Participants were motivated to stay with their partner at the same time they were motivated to end things.

And this ambivalence was very common. That relationship doubts are so common and people are often conflicted about what to do are what make this kind of research potentially helpful. What contributes to these variations in commitment?